My Favourite Life

October 19, 2006

Blowjobs

Filed under: Blowjobs,deepthroat,Fellatio,oral sex,Sex — myfavouritelife @ 8:07 am

What could I possibly say about blowjobs that isn’t already known? Probably nothing much, but here I go anyway. How does it feel to get a blowjob, and what makes a good one? I think you can rate technique and enthusiasm. The orgasm is a separate issue, but I’ll start there nonetheless. Whether I cum from having my cock sucked or by fucking, it doesn’t feel any different, but there is an added psychological element. I think the difference lies in where the results will be delivered. It doesn’t matter whether she loves cum and doesn’t matter swallowing, there is still some extra element to cumming in her mouth, and it changes everything for the better.

For me I cum in several fashions. There is the long build-up and strong release and the slow rolling long release. Of course there are duds and “what happened?” releases, too. A talented fellatrice knows how to change her approach, so at different times she can deliver a different experience—and better still can alter what she is doing in a single session. Of course, the same concept applies to talented cunnilinguists.

A long build-up usually leads to a strong orgasm. For this, she knows how to back off when she senses you are getting close to cumming. She should be able to do this several times while you simply relax and enjoy the moment—completely absorbed in the pleasure she is delivering with her mouth. It is Zen, really. I don’t focus on the orgasm because that will just happen. Instead I focus on the warmth of her mouth and the sensation of her lips and tongue (and perhaps just a little teeth) on my cock. Sometimes she uses her hand to help out, and I would be remiss not to mention when she takes it all the way into her throat. When I do cum like this, the release is powerful. Were she not there to catch it, the cumshot would likely shoot all the way across the room. Instead it hits the back of her throat—unless of course she is deepthroating, in which case it just goes. There have been many times when the force of the ejaculation has caused her to choke or gag as it had been unanticipated.

Sometimes the slow rolling release is nice. The orgasm is still nice, but the cum just sort of flows out and instead of a quick strong orgasm, you get an extended one. Personally, I think this feels better for me when I know the woman isn’t planning to swallow. With the quick release, you cum, and she spits it out almost immediately. With the slow release, she may want to, but if you aren’t done cumming, that would just be rude, now wouldn’t it. There is another related case where you cum a little but haven’t yet orgasmed, and she still has to suck your cock for another half a minute or more with that initial deposit. I have to say I feel pretty smug when that happens to a chick who you know won’t swallow.

Then there is the corn starch release. That thick, gooey cumshot that seems to barely dribble out of your cock and is like paste. What’s up with that? She can’t do much with it either. Even if she wants to swallow, it won’t go down easy. And if she intended to spit, good luck to her. I don’t prefer these cumshots, but they happen.

So oral sex techniques vary as well, and besides her mouth, she may choose to use her hands, her throat, or she may add somethng like an ice cube or an Altoid to enhance the experience. Sucking cock is more than bobbing up and down until you cum. That’s so mechanical. She has to savour your cock, to worship it. I have read some blog entries of women who do just that. Of course actions speak louder than words.

I remember when my then soon-to-be-ex-wife was flirting with guys trying to find the next one. She talked a good story providing many details about how she would do this or that, but I knew better. She knew what she was supposed to do, but she didn’t deliver. The enthusiasm was never there.

I have run out of time again. No time to write. Perhaps I’ll pick it up again later.

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7 Comments »

  1. Why is it possible to make some guys come when giving a blow job – and you can’t to get it right with others?

    Comment by flowerdamozel — October 20, 2006 @ 11:13 am | Reply

  2. Flowerdamozel – I don’t think I understand what you are asking. I’ll email you separately.

    Comment by myfavouritelife — October 20, 2006 @ 11:39 am | Reply

  3. Ahh, so glad you blogged this (and you’d better write more! 🙂 ). It’s one area where I feel I have not had enough practice, and would love to become an expert. Weird that I can’t seem to find anyone to practice on though…. maybe I’m not looking hard enough?

    Comment by womanforlife — October 20, 2006 @ 12:29 pm | Reply

  4. Woman4Life, you know I read your blog, too. As I have said, it is more intersting for me to read what a woman is doing with her sex life than some bloke is doing. Of course, I like to write, too. Hey, even a guy pretending to be posting as a woman is fine in a pinch. What I don’t know won’t hurt me! It is nice to read what average women are doing even if the experiences are, well, only average. Even the average can have above average experiences.

    About that lack of practise… I can’t see how a woman could ever have a lack of volunteers. I think I’ll write about that presently. Good luck with that though.

    By the way, how’s that bare down-under doing?

    Comment by myfavouritelife — October 20, 2006 @ 12:53 pm | Reply

  5. Perhaps I’m just picky about who I practice on! 🙂 So far so good with the lack of hair… am considering keeping it! But all depends on the preferences of a certain male. We’ll see.

    Comment by womanforlife — October 20, 2006 @ 1:40 pm | Reply

  6. […] My Favourite Life posted a little while ago on blowjobs, and it got me thinking…. […]

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  7. […] I was corresponsing via email regarding my post on blowjobs, and I am rewording my response to create this blog entry. She asked why she couldn’t seem to get some guys to cum through oral sex but it hadn’t been a problem with other guys. Here is an open response along those lines. […]

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