The past few days of correspondence on the site and via email is why I bother to keep this site updated. It is nice to engage in some anonymous intercourse. (I love that term.) It would be so nice if in the so-called real world communication could be so open. Instead we hide behind personae. We are employers and employees, husbands or wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, or significant others. We are these things and more.
WomanForLife makes my point precisely. She argues in this post that it is not—as I have said—easier for women to get laid than for men. She outlines her repressive environment, but this only sets the barrier higher. The fact is that the barrier is likely higher for men and women. I am not there. Perhaps is is equally as difficult, but I doubt it is harder.
Let me put it this way. If I approach a woman—for argument’s sake, say it is womanforlife—who doesn’t otherwise know me in some everyday setting and ask her straight out if she would like to have sex with me, she is likely going to tell me to piss off, if not call the local authorities. At work, I’d be up for creating a hostile work environment or be up on charges of sexual harassment. Now, let’s turn the tables. Say I’m alone catching a film at the local art house and she sits down beside me and asks, “Hey, how would you like a blowjob?” In an earlier post I was presented with this actual offer. It wasn’t that I wouldn’t have otherwise accepted he offer, but her boyfriend was right there with us. That’s a horse of a different colour. My point is that I wouldn’t have just come out and asked her, “Hey, how ’bout you suck my cock?” or even, “Would you mind if I eat your pussy?”
Now her primary point was in regard to her work environment and her community status as well as a guilt complex. These are all ego-driven responses. They are artificial—well, not so much in the work environment, but I am thinking you could always get some action a few towns over. Myself, though I am married and not on the market, I live in a repressed Catholic town in the Midwest. I was raised in a repressed Catholic town on the East Coast. I am neither Catholic nor repressed, though I understand the sensibilities.
Again, I know very little about womanforlife save for what she reveals. I also know that anyone can write anything in an anonymous blog entry. I don’t know her age, but according to her blog, she is 5’5″ with a bit of extra padding—average, she says. I don’t know where in the world she lives, though she has a South African domain name. She sometimes dresses “to the nines,” and she sometimes wears jeans. I prefer jeans, myself. She doesn’t prefer to wear too much makeup. She has freckles. My favourite thought is that she has recently shaven her pussy, but you knew that already.
Now, I know (or can pretty well guess) that I would not expect her or any other woman I know casually to come up to me and mention in passing, “You know what I did this weekend? I shaved my pussy?” or even, “You know, I haven’t had sex in ages. I would love to be fucked by just about anyone about now.” It’s not going to happen. But it happens here. She wrote as much. Just read her entries.
Guilt for sexual desires and longings. The bible frowns upon these things. Being a Buddhist, we are only expected to act responsibly when it comes to sex—and then there is Tantra, but even this is to be reserved for life partners in order to make a higher union. In the US, we need more women. So many women want to be men. I could ramble on for days about this, but the fact is men are better men than women, and women make better women than men. Period. Yin-Yang: balance. In the US, this is considered chauvinistic or sexist, and so what if I want a woman to be a woman. It’s not rocket science.
Where was I? Oh yeah. Guilt. That’s an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. My advice to womanforlife. Take a chance. Take a holiday. Get away. Don’t limit yourself. This may be a result of your environment, but, likely, you aren’t limited to that environment—unless you are in prison or captive somewhere.