My Favourite Life

October 26, 2006

D/S BDSM

Filed under: Sex — myfavouritelife @ 6:00 am

I guess this post is a troll for comments. I have noticed that several other writers in my mini-blogosphere talk about Lifestyle issues revolving around Dominance and Submission, Bondage and Discipline, and Sado-Mosochism. I used to be more involved in these things, but my interest has waned. I haven’t even dabbled in these areas in years, perhaps even a decade. I have written a little about some of these escapades in the past, but I have new new exploits to discuss. It was interesting enough in its day, but one can only do so much in that realm. Some peopl etake it way too seriously, and other people consider a pair of handcuffs to be kinky. That leads me to ask, just what is kinky? My guess is what many people would include in their list of kinky behaviour would not make my list. To me, it would just be considered foreplay or sex. It’s all about perspective.

Is being bound and gagged kinky? Is being blindfolded kinky? What about tickling or spanking? Nipple clamps? A riding crop? Pubic shaving? Anal sex? Oral sex? What about deepthroat? Sex and food—whip cream, anyone? Multiple partners?

I don’t consider any of these things to be kinky. I don’t do some of these things any longer, but I wouldn’t consider them kinky. What is kniky exactly? Is it something out of the ordinary? Is it something you wouldn’t do? is it something you feel inhibited to do? If you feel inhibited to do it but do it nonetheless, is it still kinky? Is it somehow distasteful?

Is kinky still a relevant word these days? Here are some sexual things not listed above that I don’t particularly have in interest in. I have done some of them, but I don’t think they would be considered kinky, per se.

  • Fisting, vaginal or anal. I don’t get it. Most women I know cringe at the prospect, but not the ones who ask for it. I have never done the anal thing, though it has been requested. The vaginal thing was no big deal.
  • Public Sex
  • Wine enemas
  • MFM DP Sandwich. Interesting, but not a staple.
  • Ice Dildos
  • Penetrative Vegetables
  • Masturbating for a partner
  • Masturbating for a stranger
  • Having sex with your partner watching
  • Having sex with someone not your partner watching
  • Watersports
  • Scat (Yuck!)

So, I guess I still don’t know what kinky sex is? Does anybody?

7 Comments »

  1. dead lesbian biker nuns from hell in drag, and the amputee midgets who love them.

    don’t ask me, but i think that kink is in the eye of the beholder.

    Comment by r1g0r — October 26, 2006 @ 11:00 pm | Reply

  2. How true.

    Comment by myfavouritelife — October 27, 2006 @ 5:46 am | Reply

  3. You asked the question and I have been thinking about it.

    I found a test : http://www.queendom.com/tests/minitests/fx/kinky.html

    Results of “The Test”
    Are you kinky?

    Your score = 60 Your score

    What does your score mean?

    You are very open-minded when it comes to sexuality. You welcome new experiences in the bedroom, and even if you aren’t comfortable with a particular ingredient of sex, you don’t judge those who indulge themselves. You seem to be one gutsy love-maker! You are evidently willing to experiment and are adept at using your creative instincts in the bedroom. Your approach is playful and fun and you’re more than capable of walking on the wild side when the mood strikes – in fact, you have quite the appetite for the sexually daring. You are curious, adventurous and thrill seeking. If S&M, B&D, threesomes and swinging are your thing, however, proceed with caution – your wild disposition could clash with a loved one’s more docile sexual temperament (not to mention the danger of STDs). Even fulfilling your wildest fantasy may not be worth losing the love and respect of someone special, so be sure to communicate and test the waters before making any leaps.

    Comment by flowerdamozel — October 27, 2006 @ 2:33 pm | Reply

  4. I got a 95, but I don’t consider myself to be kinky. Many questions on that test were pretty mild anyway.

    Comment by myfavouritelife — October 27, 2006 @ 3:57 pm | Reply

  5. LOL

    Guess I am even less Kinky.

    Now that I am learning to loosen up/ lighten up , that may change.

    Comment by flowerdamozel — October 28, 2006 @ 2:12 am | Reply

  6. “Kinky” is what you are when your partner might be interested in trying something new that you’ve suggested.

    If your partner is freaked out, then you’re “perverted.”

    Just an observation from real life.

    Tom Allen
    The Edge of Vanilla

    Comment by Tom Allen — November 12, 2006 @ 9:03 am | Reply

  7. Tom,
    You’ve got a point there. I think further down the scale is “sick” or “demented.” There is a scale, isn’t there? Adding your blog to my blogroll…

    Comment by myfavouritelifes — November 13, 2006 @ 9:02 am | Reply


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