My Favourite Life

June 5, 2007

Double Standards

Filed under: breasts,Sex — myfavouritelife @ 12:59 pm

So, like NotoriousV, I don’t have much to say—besides I am incredibly busy. I want to make a comment about double standards and employment. I overhear women co-workers all the time commenting about how great a dress makes another look, or how her hair looks, and so on. of course, if a guy says these things, he is liable to end up with a sexual harassment charge. Even outside work, it works the same.

The other day I saw an amazing looking woman. I could tell she was the type to look for attention. (I am not sure what gave it away: the Mercedes, the jeans so tight you could crack a whip on ’em, her walk…). She had an amazing body and her eyes were piercing blue. I felt bad that I couldn’t just compliment her natural beauty—perfect breasts, amazing ass, the typical guy-attraction stuff. Compliments of these sorts are generally off limits. And the comments do not have to be particular sexually oriented.

I say these things are generally off limits because it is not uncommon for someone to approach a child (especially babies) and talk to them, tell their caretaker how beautiful the child is, or tickle the child. Of course, if I had used this approach on the woman to whom I am referring…well, just say odds are I’d be in big trouble. Now, of course, (everything of course) I am of the belief that one shouldn’t accost children like this, I am just talking about the double standard thing. People do deserve personal space. But, that aside, if only it wasn’t taboo to comment like this, the world might be a warmer place.

The other double standard is that women can get away with saying something like this to a guy. She would be considered flirty, perhaps, but not a letch. C’est la vie.

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  1. I agree. Unfortunately, life is not fair.

    Comment by fellatrix — June 5, 2007 @ 6:24 pm | Reply

  2. 🙂

    Comment by myfavouritelife — June 6, 2007 @ 7:00 am | Reply

  3. As a woman, I’m aware of this. In an additional twist, if you are a woman and you DON’T say something about a female co-worker’s new haircut, new shoes, outfit, ect., it’s kind of unfriendly. Saying something like that is expected. As far as I am concerned, a man saying something like that to a woman shouldn’t be sexual harassment. “You look very nice today,” is different than ongoing, aggressive sexual harassment. It’s too bad men have to be so afraid of this because some women are overly aggressive on this.

    Comment by dirty filthy princess — June 8, 2007 @ 10:53 am | Reply

  4. Men can compliment women like that in many countries. Most American women run for their lives when they hear so many “rude” comments, but after living abroad for even a short while, I got addicted to the almost constant barage of compliments in cat-call form. I love it!

    But I don’t love it in America, because, like you said, only creeps do it in America.

    Comment by notoriousv — June 13, 2007 @ 9:21 pm | Reply

  5. Oh- and on the women complimenting women thing…

    I don’t see it as a “have to” in order to seem nice or friendly thing. I remember once when someone complimented me on something silly, like my shirt or my hair, and it made me feel so good I decided right then and there to SAY SOMETHING if I thought someone looked particularly good that day. Because just thinking it to myself and not saying anything was stupid, when saying something could really brighten her day!

    Comment by notoriousv — June 13, 2007 @ 9:23 pm | Reply

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