I may be treading on old ground here, but I was thinking about preferences. At times—thankfully not in a long while—my wife has directed a jealous streak toward me. For example, I may make a comment about how I like some woman’s red hair, blue eyes, figure, what have you. Her defensive response is: why don’t you men just wait until you find your perfect woman before settling down, as if to suggest one perfect woman (or person) is on the earth, and you could find that person (who would also see you as a perfect person for her). This line of thinking—besides being hopelessly Romantic—is otherwise unrealistic and single-minded.
Say, I like chocolate ice cream. Should that mean I should only ever enjoy chocolate ice cream? Should that mean I can never enjoy vanilla ice cream? This ice cream analogy doesn’t even have the added complexity of reciprocity. Even without reciprocity, who’s to say I cannot simultaneously find—I dunno—Angelina Joli and Lindsey Lohan and Kate Moss attractive? This also does not mean I can be attracted to my wife and these people. I kinda just made up the list, but I think you get the point. Sometimes I just need a blowjob or anal sex.
The same thing extends to sex. Her question to me has been, “Why do you need so much variety?” I would be so pleased to have just regular sex (read: intercourse). If that’s all I had the rest of my life, it wouldn’t bother me. Of course, I don’t want a life of only having chocolate ice cream. There is vanilla and strawberry right there. Give me some. I’ll still favour chocolate, but vive la difference!
In economics there are concepts of goods and preferences. One may enjoy chocolate chip cookies better than everything else in the world. Given the opportunity, one would accept a chocolate chip cookie (and even pay for it), but there are diminishing returns for subsequent cookies. After the first one, you may pas on a second one…or a third…or a fourth…or… I think I made my point. At some point the good becomes a bad. Finally, the last thing you want to see is another cookie. You want something different, if anything at all.
Am I wrong?