My Favourite Life

June 14, 2007


Filed under: Anal Sex,Blowjobs,Sex — myfavouritelife @ 6:47 am

I may be treading on old ground here, but I was thinking about preferences. At times—thankfully not in a long while—my wife has directed a jealous streak toward me. For example, I may make a comment about how I like some woman’s red hair, blue eyes, figure, what have you. Her defensive response is: why don’t you men just wait until you find your perfect woman before settling down, as if to suggest one perfect woman (or person) is on the earth, and you could find that person (who would also see you as a perfect person for her). This line of thinking—besides being hopelessly Romantic—is otherwise unrealistic and single-minded.

Say, I like chocolate ice cream. Should that mean I should only ever enjoy chocolate ice cream? Should that mean I can never enjoy vanilla ice cream? This ice cream analogy doesn’t even have the added complexity of reciprocity. Even without reciprocity, who’s to say I cannot simultaneously find—I dunno—Angelina Joli and Lindsey Lohan and Kate Moss attractive? This also does not mean I can be attracted to my wife and these people. I kinda just made up the list, but I think you get the point. Sometimes I just need a blowjob or anal sex.

The same thing extends to sex. Her question to me has been, “Why do you need so much variety?” I would be so pleased to have just regular sex (read: intercourse). If that’s all I had the rest of my life, it wouldn’t bother me. Of course, I don’t want a life of only having chocolate ice cream. There is vanilla and strawberry right there. Give me some. I’ll still favour chocolate, but vive la difference!

In economics there are concepts of goods and preferences. One may enjoy chocolate chip cookies better than everything else in the world. Given the opportunity, one would accept a chocolate chip cookie (and even pay for it), but there are diminishing returns for subsequent cookies. After the first one, you may pas on a second one…or a third…or a fourth…or… I think I made my point. At some point the good becomes a bad. Finally, the last thing you want to see is another cookie. You want something different, if anything at all.

Am I wrong?

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  1. I tried to explain this Different Flavor Theory to my boyfriend, and his reaction was: you wanna sleep with someone else?
    but I feel ya! monotony and routine kill me slowly and softly.

    Comment by coquetteinbed — June 14, 2007 @ 5:17 pm | Reply

  2. If the fact that you are attracted to other women bothers her, can you just keep it to yourself? personally, I tend to point these women out to husband before he has a chance, but that’s me. If it upsets her…

    As for variety, well, everybody needs variety in bed. I would think she would too… Does she ever just get oral, no strings attached? Well then, there you go.

    Comment by dirty filthy princess — June 16, 2007 @ 7:25 pm | Reply

  3. Coquette,

    Yeah. It is hard to explain.


    My wife points them out, too. It is my response (that she solicits) that creates the conversation. And, yes, she gets unreciprocated head, and so do I. But after 11 years, can there be such a thing as an unreciprocated anything?

    Comment by myfavouritelife — June 18, 2007 @ 5:57 am | Reply

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